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Jennifer Lopez plans to keep her personal life more private moving forward.
When the star, 56, appeared on Howard Stern’s SiriusXM show on Wednesday, Oct. 15 to promote her movie Kiss of the Spider Woman, she disagreed with Stern, 71, when he asked if Lopez has felt like her romances are “doomed from the beginning” being in the public eye.
“No, I don’t feel that. I feel that the right person who can handle that… I think I’ve made mistakes in the sense that I live my life very out loud, even though I was in the public eye,” Lopez said.
“I wanted to share my life with someone. I want someone to be there when I’m having my big important moments on the red carpet. I want someone to be there when I’m doing whatever, or when we’re going to the store. Whatever it is, I wanted to share that.”
“So I didn’t hide from it, and I spoke about it. And I think now, after what’s happened in the past few years to me and my children, I just feel like I want to keep that part so much more quiet in my life,” she added.
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Lopez shares her twins Max and Emme, 17, with ex-husband Marc Anthony. She has been married four times, including to Ojani Noa in the late 1990s and to Cris Judd between 2001 and 2003. Lopez was engaged to Ben Affleck from 2002 to 2003, but they ended their engagement in 2004. She was married to Anthony, 57, from 2004 to 2011.
Lopez and Affleck rekindled their romance in 2021 and married in July 2022. She then filed for divorce from Affleck, 53, in August 2024.
When Stern asked Lopez how she can go about keeping her life more private, Lopez noted that “a lot of people have done it, and some people live out loud, and some people, they get married and you never know.”
“It’s hard, because these are big moments in your life. You want to share them with everybody, and you think ‘That’s okay,’ ” she added. “But the truth is when you’re in this type of career and you have the type of level of fame that we’re talking about, there is a compromise. There are adjustments that you do need to make, because it is a very blessed life.”
“I love what I do and I appreciate my fans and I appreciate the position that I have and I appreciate the opportunities I continue to get. But at the end of the day, there is a tradeoff in certain ways,” Lopez said. “And that’s one of the tradeoffs, is that you have to learn how to navigate your personal life, and my personal life has suffered at times because of that.”
“Now, I have learned that — and it took time for me to learn it. I kept thinking ‘No, I can be this. I can do this.’ And now I’ve realized that no, you have to change. You have to change your behavior if you want to have a successful relationship in your life, and that was part of it.”
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When Affleck spoke about their divorce in GQ in March, the Oscar winner said he and Lopez had differing approaches to fame. Affleck praised Lopez as someone who has “handled celebrity more adeptly and more adroitly than I have,” explaining, “My temperament is to be a little bit more reserved and private than hers.”
“As happens in relationships, you don’t always have the same attitude towards these things,” he continued at the time. “And so I thought, Oh, this is interesting because how do you reconcile that? Because … I love and support this person. I believe in them. They’re great. I want people to see that.”
Kiss of the Spider Woman is in theaters now.
