Lily Allen Understands ‘Pain’ She May Have Caused in First Marriage After David Harbour Split

Lily Allen opened up about what she learned following her split from David Harbour.

In an Observer UK interview on Saturday, Dec. 20, the pop star discussed now having a better understanding of the “pain” she may have caused during her first marriage to ex-husband Sam Cooper.

While Allen, 40, says there are no “baddies and goodies in a marriage,” she’s discovered a newfound perspective.

“Having done things that were not very nice in my first marriage, I have a better idea now of the pain I may have inflicted,” she tells the publication. “I’ve learned how horrible it is to be on the receiving end of that.”

Allen also addressed whether she’d be open to getting married again in the future.

“I’d like to say I’d never do it again, but I do like it. Everything but the institution of it, you know?” she said.

Allen continued, “I like being chosen. I like jewlery. I like getting dressed up. I like celebrating. I don’t like talking about money. I like my independence. But I don’t like divorce.”

Allen and Harbour, 50, were married in 2020, and a source confirmed their split to PEOPLE in February after four years of marriage.

Allen’s new album West End Girl features lyrics that are inspired by the breakdown of her marriage to Harbour.

“I’ve tried to document my life in a new city and the events that led me to where I am in my life now. At the same time, I’ve used shared experiences as the basis for songs which try to delve into why we humans behave as we do, so the record is a mixture of fact and fiction,” she previously said in a press release statement about the album.

Allen is also mom to daughters Marnie, 12, and Ethel, 14, with ex-husband Sam Cooper, to whom she was married from 2011 until 2018.

In 2020, she addressed her divorce from Cooper in an interview on the U.K. talk show Loose Women.

“Me and my husband share custody of my kids, so we’re a week on, week off, which actually is really useful for my work because when he’s got them, then I can concentrate fully on my work in the studio,” Allen said at the time. “We’re both really friendly. Our kids go to school equidistant between our houses, so it works.”

Their split — and her life as a mom — inspired much of her 2018 album, No Shame,